This serves a dual purpose for the female bully. First, she gets to watch her target suffer, since what she's done is very cruel. (Malignant narcissists often derive pleasure from other people's pain.) With everyone questioning the target's actions and motives, the narcissist can now count on them not to offer any resistance when she launches a full-scale attack, designed to destroy the target.
Relationships are a game to a malignant narcissist. She wants to win at all costs. She views people as objects to be moved around in a game of emotional chess. A morally disordered person will spent an inordinate amount of time studying her moves, with a patience that would make a world-class chess player look impulsive.
Psychologists call this type of behavior "relational aggression." As it become more apparent that not all narcopaths and sociopaths are men, as was previously assumed, it's now known that female predators abuse their victims on a more emotional level, by marginalizing them and excluding them.
Although, if you're a target, it may seem as if the narcissist is flying high, this is only for a season. Her crash is coming. Narcopaths always end up losing, as their lies and deception eventually convict them.
Here are some of the many ways in which narcissists wind up as the ultimate losers.
- Narcissists tend to target loyal people whom are actually their true friends, although it is a very one-sided arrangement. Throughout their lives, they ruin a series of these friendships. This is a loss, although they certainly don't realize it at the time.
- Narcissists are miserable inside. If they weren't, they wouldn't behave in such a treacherous manner.
- Along with this inner emptiness is deep self loathing. How can you possible like yourself, when you behave in a way so harmful to others?
- Narcissists live in fear of exposure. They want to be loved and admired. But if people knew their true personality, they'd want nothing to do with them.
- Malignant narcissists often end up lonely, as their lies catch up with them. Oftentimes, the pack of flying monkeys they recruit, to assist in their abuse of one target, end up turning on them.
- As a Catholic, I also believe there are serious spiritual consequences to abusing someone. These will start in this life, and continue into the next.