Those of us who've spent time with a morally disordered person cannot help but notice their hypocritical behavior. Narcissists love to make rules, but only for others to follow. They set impossibly high standards, which no mere moral is ever capable of living up to. Plus, the goal lines are always moving. Even if you satisfy one set of expectations, additional, equally absurd ones will follow.
Of course, if you look closely, a narcissist doesn't live by her own standards. These are put in place for everyone else, especially for her targets. Then, when you fall short of the mark, she'll point fingers. She'll try to convince you of your own "unworthiness." She'll also use your perceived "shortcomings" in an attempt to undermine your other relationships.
This is what often happens when you're involved in a group dynamic with a narcissist. In a social situation, a malignant personality will gravitate into a position of power. Then, she'll choose a target. (Morally disordered people always need a target.)
Most people are easily led, and most narcissists are extremely charismatic, so they are swayed when a narcissist points out someone's real or imagined faults. This is one of the ways she's able to turn others against her current target.
Of course, if you're the target, there's little you can do to change people's minds. Nor is it advisable to try. Life is to short to spend time and energy on such weak-willed people, who don't have the integrity to defend someone who's being unfairly accused and unjustly treated.
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