Thursday, November 14, 2013
The Best Support When You're Bullied is Found Online
Female narcissists are undoubtedly the most clever creatures on the planet. Extremely manipulative and deceptive, to the rest of the world they appear as angels. That's why targets have extreme difficulty finding support. The disbelief factor is so strong that others can't conceive of what's happening.
It's difficult for anyone who hasn't dealt with a female bully to understand these dynamics. That's why I think it's better not to discuss it with anyone. There are two reasons why. One is that it's best not to reveal the sins and shortcomings of another, even if that person is tormenting you. The other reason is that people may not believe you, especially if they like the person in question.
If you work with a female narcissist, and she has it in for you, please don't make the mistake of talking about this at the office. In a toxic environment, it's hard to know whom to trust. There's a lot of confusion in the air. The bully, most likely, has already sullied your reputation. Actually, it's a pretty safe bet to say she's done that. A bully wouldn't attack if she didn't think she had you backed in a corner. She does this by cutting off your social support before throwing her first grenade.
That's why the Internet has evolved as the best means of support. You'll find a lot of other people who've lived through similar situations. They'll believe you.
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