Tuesday, December 31, 2013
Is it Possible to Be Too Nice? - Yes, When Dealing with a Malignant Narcissist
As children, we're taught to be nice. This is a good thing. As we develop into normal human beings, we also learn to look at life from the perspective of others. If someone is going through a rough time, we feel badly about this and try to help.
Narcissists take advantage of people who are empathetic. Because they are so clever at reading others, they seem to sense when someone has strong empathetic qualities. Then, they'll use these to exploit you.
Although virtually anybody can be taken in by a con artist, being nice and vulnerable in a certain area puts you more at risk, according to the experts.
I'm not sure how scientific it is, but there is an online test you can take to gauge just how much at risk you are, for falling for the ploys of a sociopath (or a malignant narcissist). The test is available on the popular site LoveFraud Blog, dedicated to people who've been deceived (usually romantically) by a sociopath. Here is a link to the test.
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