Wednesday, March 12, 2014
If You Dig a Pit for Someone Else, You'll Eventually Stumble Into It
There are a number of sayings from different cultures around the world about setting traps. What happens is the person who sets a trap for someone else will later fall into it. In Jamaican, for instance, it's said that if you dig a hole for someone else, you better dig another for yourself, because that's where you're going to end up, or something to that effect.
This saying probably means that you've likely made an enemy or two along the way, and someone else is probably digging a hole for you, according to an online poster.
There is also a Russian proverb advising against digging a hole for someone else, because you will eventually fall into it.
Those of us who live in the United States have all heard the expression, "What goes around, comes around."
This truism is also found in the Bible, in Psalm 7:8, which notes that sinners "open a hole and dig it deep, but fall into the pit they have dug."
In my own lifetime, I've seen this play out. Years ago, for instance, when I was working outside of the house, at a job I planned to leave anyway, I supervised a woman who desperately wanted my position. She was a highly charismatic charmer who convinced a higher up that I was mistreating her, which, of course, I wasn't.
Because I was planning to leave anyway, because I wanted to be home with my children, that's what I did. A year later this woman was fired, as the higher up eventually got wise to her antics.
Later, when I was out of the workforce, I ran into another female malignant narcissist at church. I wouldn't say she's fallen into the pit yet, but it will happen eventually. Knowing this helps me reconcile what has happened, and move toward forgiveness. I'll let God take care of it.
Flickr photo by -JvL-