I'm constantly learning new things about malignant narcissism, even though I've been "studying" it for a number of years. Ever since a female sociopath, posing as a friend, managed to infiltrate my life and many of my personal relationships, I've had an interest in this disorder. This week, I learned of a new term called "ambient abuse."
It turns out that this is the same thing as "gas lighting," which is a very horrible way that malignant narcissists toy with you, by playing mind games that make you doubt your perception of things, and, in extreme cases, can even make you question your sanity. They often combine this with "hinting." This involves a very subtle suggestion they anticipate you will follow through with. It could be designed to cast you in a bad light, in an attempt to undermine you.
For example, the narcissist might have prepped a third party to expect you to approach them, with a suggestion. They then attribute a nefarious intention to what you're going to suggest. Then, they drop a hint to you, that encourages you to make this suggestion.
They don't come right out and ask you to do this. But they let you know, for one reason or another, that they can't do it themselves. Being the nice person that you are, you volunteer for the task. But, by doing so, you are walking right into their trap.
Narcissists have an almost superhuman ability to manipulate situations, to their advantage. No one can understand this unless they've had first-hand dealings with a malignant personality.
So, even though I consider myself fairly up on the lingo associated with personality disorders, the term "ambient abuse" was a new one to me.