Tuesday, April 8, 2014
Exposing the Female Narcissist
Malignant narcissists are like vampires. They operate in the darkness and they fear the light of exposure. Their biggest threat is having others perceive them as less than perfect. If they sense that you've caught on to their act, or they've let their mask slip in front of you, they will work to neutralize you. This is accomplished through gossip and backstabbing techniques designed to isolate you from the people they want to impress. At least that's how female narcissists operate. They strike indirectly, because they need to keep up the facade of being saintly.
If you're in a social setting, a narcissist who's been partially exposed will attempt to drive you away. Usually it's a done deal because most people aren't aware that another human being can be so devious. So if you see someone with strong narcissistic traits, proceed very carefully, especially if you're in a work environment.
My hope is that by shining light on the grievous problem of female malignant narcissists, perhaps one day more people will wise up to their games and they won't get away with quite so much.
I'm of the mind that malignant narcissism is on the rise and has been for a number of years. The disorder was first identified in the 1960's by psychologist Erich Fromm. He didn't mince words when he called it "the quintessence of evil."
A number of things seem to be contributing to this pathology, including raising children to believe they are entitled and special. An out-of-proportion sense of entitlement is one of the hallmarks of this disorder. As a Catholic, I also believe what we are seeing is partly spiritual, and the result of deep-rooted sin.
However, I don't believe the awareness of most people has caught up to the fact we're living in a narcissistic society, and disordered individuals are everywhere.
In any event, if you're reading this, chances are you've had a close encounter of the worst kind with a female narcissist. As painful as it is, there's also a lot to learn. Life on the other side of narcissism is once better, after you've managed to free yourself from her deadly clutches.
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