Saturday, August 23, 2014
Narcissists and the Pity Play
It's often hard to discern someone's character when you first meet them. But, in this day and age, we need to exercise discernment. This is all the more true if you've been the target of a narcissist in the past. Some of us are magnets for morally disordered people, who come in all shapes, sizes and guises.
Even psychologists may have a hard time picking them out of a crowd. Because morally disordered people are so adept at reading others, and feigning normal human emotions, they adapt their mask to fit the occasion, and so they're able to fool even the experts.
So, is there anything an emotional predator may do, to give you a heads up, before you become heavily invested in a relationship? Yes, according to Dr. Martha Stout, PhD., author of The Sociopath Next Door. She has found that malignant narcissists/sociopaths/con artists play the sympathy card early in a relationship.
Since malignant people often target empaths, this, apparently, is an effective device to draw you into their world, one of the last places you need to enter.
So beware when someone you don't well plays this hand. This is where discernment comes in. You may be dealing with a distressed person who desperately needs your sympathy and support. Or you may be dealing with a sociopath. Watch carefully for other signs, and, if you see them, rush for the exit.
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