In addition, keeping us off balance helps them to better control us.
Part of the smoke and mirrors game they play involves arranging various situations that make us uncomfortable. We're not quite sure why we feel this way, but something isn't right. In fact, in a social setting, or at work, having a vague feeling of unease is one of the signs a malignant narcissist is in your midst.
If your experience with a female narcissist is anything like mine, you become unsettled when you're in her company, but you don't know why you feel this way. As she draws other people into her tangled web, in an effort to destroy you, these feelings of unease increase.
When you're walking with a malignant narcissist, life is a continual balancing act. If you've had no prior experience with a malignant person, it's very difficult to comprehend how someone who appears so nice could act so wickedly. But once your eyes are opened, you understand more about this insidious disorder.
Narcissists often employ a sick psychological trick known as "gas lighting," in which they deny something that really happened. They do this to make you question your own perceptions. Morally disordered people also keep us off kilter with "directed conversation." This means they say something, seemingly unintentionally, within earshot. However, it's a very calculated message they're trying to get across.
What's the best way to deal with a malignant narcissist? If they're not related to you, adopt the "no contact" rule. You'll be much better off without this sort of poisonous influence in your life.