Monday, September 15, 2014
A Malignant Narcissist Will Mirror Your Values
In the beginning of a relationship with a malignant narcissist, the behavior you see is often the opposite of what you'll encounter later. They are lavish with their praise, to the point that they seem to put you up on a pedestal. They are readily available and they're a lot of fun. It seems as if you have found the perfect soul mate. You are so thankful to have found such a close "friend."
However, what's happening is that you are being "groomed." Because people with such a severe character flaws do not have normal human emotions, such as compassion and the ability to take another's perspective, they can only mirror your personality traits. This is why the two of you seem to connect so well. For instance, you enjoy traveling to the Caribbean. Guess what? So does she. You and your husband may like a particular type of ethnic food. Well, coincidence of coincidences, that's her favorite as well.
The morally disordered person is also using this time to probe your personality for strengths and weaknesses. She is envious of your strengths, so down the road she will try to destroy these, or at least try to destroy other people's perceptions of your strengths. During the discard phase, and even before, she will attempt to assassinate your character. By the time you realize what she's up to, a great deal of damage has been done. If this happens at work, you may need to look for another job.
Malignant narcissists are dangerous people. That's why it's always a good idea to spot the warning signs of this very destructive disorder beforehand, in order to keep divisive personalities at arm's length.
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