Friday, September 12, 2014

Adult Bullies Also Use Social Media

It's a well-known fact that childhood bullies use social media to taunt their targets, which is a very dangerous thing because the target never really gets a break from the abuse. In an earlier generation, a child could come home from school and not have to worry about mean people until he or she returned to class the next day. They could also enjoy bully-free weekends.

Adult bullies, unfortunately, have also discovered social media. These online predators love the ease and convenience it affords. For instance, if they are trying to exclude someone from a group, or drive them from a job, they will typically start email lists, yahoo groups or post a lot on Facebook. They will then use these posts to let the victim know they are being isolated and excluded. (Exclusion is a form of bullying, as is gate keeping, or managing the flow of information.)

Female bullies typically use relational aggression, rather than physical violence or threats of physical harm. They work hard to get other people to turn on their target, by spreading false rumors and using innuendo to convince others the target is a bad person. Because females are often covert, or closet, bullies, they can also maintain a facade of being a nice person at the same time. Their target sees their true colors, but no one else does.

So, if you're having trouble with a female bully at work, or in a social setting, disconnect from the Internet as much as you can. Don't read her emotionally charged emails. Ignore her Facebook page. Let her waste her time trying to shoot arrows across the Internet, because they have no place to land.

Pixabay image top by geralt

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