If you're a target of a female bully, whether at work or elsewhere, it is undoubtedly a very trying time in your life. It probably seems as if it will never end and you'll never be happy again. But that's only an illusion. Everything has a season, and the narcissist will eventually choose a new target. (We sincerely hope she repents, and amends her life, but these instances are rare, and, if it does happen, it may not be for a long time.)
Meanwhile, you must deal with her. If the abuse plays out in a social setting, or at church, usually the best thing to do is to leave, even if it means pulling your children away from people they've come to know and love. The fact that you have children is often a justification for staying in a toxic environment longer than necessary. But it's much better to take your children away from a poisonous atmosphere, because of the potential damage it can do to them. Once a situation reaches a tipping point, where others believe a narcissist's lies, and give her their unconditional support, things are too far gone for them to turn around.
If you work for a narcissist, or the office bully has targeted you, you could be trapped until you find a new job. Things may seem hopeless, but, one day, you will be free from the struggle and emerge much stronger than before.
Keep in mind that narcissists are not happy people and they have very limited power, even though it doesn't seem that way when you're in the line of fire. So, this too shall pass.
Here are some things to keep in mind.
- Malignant narcissists are very impulsive and they will eventually mess up. All you have to do is wait.
- Morally disordered people lie a lot. Eventually, this will catch up with them. Remember the old saying, "You can fool some of the people some of the time."
- People with a serious character disorder, such as malignant narcissism, attract like-minded comrades to their camp. However, because these flying monkeys lack integrity, they can't be trusted. Power struggles will eventually emerge and infighting will break out. The group will then implode. Remember, there's no honor among thieves.
- I don't know if you believe in God, but I do, and I know He's watching everything. In His time, he will put a stop to the abuse. This you can count on.
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