Wednesday, October 29, 2014
What is a Psychopathic Narcissist?
Sometimes, I think the term "malignant narcissist" is a little confusing. It describes someone with classic narcissistic traits who also has a propensity to harm people, or even delights in hurting others. But this description barely touches upon the level of evil these folks are capable of.
Imagine someone who pretends to be your best friend, but secretly plots your destruction. She desperately wants to ruin your life, and, in order to do so, "befriends" you for a year or two to gain access to your world. Everyone else thinks she is a living saint, but you start to see a few cracks in her facade. However, by the time you first notice she has very strange internal wiring, it's impossible to cut her out of your life. That's because she's infiltrated all your other relationships and has gotten to know your extended family. Your relatives, and even your own children, may idolize her.
Although these more "socialized" psychopaths may be function well in society, they are cut from the same mold as the folks locked up in prison, because they've committed some horrible crime. Both types of psychopaths are devoid of conscience and neither have empathy for anyone else. All psychopaths have the ability to do dastardly deeds, without suffering any remorse.
Most psychopaths, according to a number of prominent researchers who've studied this condition, are not behind bars. They are charming, personable and blend in with the rest of us. It's hard to get our heads around the fact they can appear so normal. Granted, that pretty young mother who drives her children back and forth to soccer practice on Saturday mornings doesn't look like a psychopath. But her targets know the truth. At work, she has clawed her way to the top of the feeding chain, by sabotaging the aspirations of others. In the process, she has destroyed the career of several innocent people, whom are now unemployed. She did the same thing at her previous job.
Also, her husband and her children know the truth. She pretty much ignores her family, except for soccer practice. There, she stands on the sidelines, looking like mother of the year.
This is why I think the term psychopathic narcissist is much more descriptive than malignant narcissist.
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