Friday, October 31, 2014

When Your Child's Teacher is a Narcissist

Females with strong narcissistic traits often gravitate toward the "helping professions," such as teaching and social work. Doing so gives them legitimacy and it helps them develop their cover as a nice person, when in reality they are plotter, connivers and manipulators. Being in such a position also gives them access to vulnerable targets, such as young students and their parents. One of my friends is a school psychologist, and she told me one time that she estimates that half of the teachers in any given school system are there for the wrong reasons, either self gratification or just waiting until their retirement benefits kick in.

Teachers are also notorious for bullying each other. One study by the American Psychological Association conducted a survey, in which 3,000 teachers were polled. About 80 percent of them believed they had been bullied on the job, either by another teacher, an administrator of a parent.

So, if you have a child in a school system, there's a pretty good chance he or she will eventually get a malignant narcissist as a teacher. As someone in a position of authority, she can do a great deal of damage if she decides to target your child. For a parent, this can become a living hell until the school year ends.

Here's what to do if you suspect your child's teacher is a narcissist. You can often spot this by her flashy dress, being overly manicured and constant talking about herself and her accomplishments. First of all, do not question anything she does. Find something you can sincerely compliment her on. Walk on eggshells, and stay out of the classroom as much as possible. You don't want to draw attention to yourself, or your child, because you don't want your son or daughter to become a target.

Watch carefully for signs that your child isn't enjoying school. Take it seriously if he or she says," The teacher doesn't like me." Remember, you are likely dealing an someone who probably has less maturity and self control than your child.

If your child is a target, plan your next move carefully. Ideally, you want your child transferred to another class. However, some school systems will resist, so make sure to document everything and bring it to the administration of necessary. If administrators won't budge, the targeting will likely escalate. At this point, you may want to think about changing schools or even home schooling.

The teacher will have no power over your child the next year, but you want to prevent any emotional harm in the meantime, because your child is being taught by an emotional predator. Good luck.

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