Thursday, January 8, 2015
A Malignant Narcissist Will Contact Other People in Your Life
There are very few things in life you can count on, but here is one. If you're involved with a malicious female narcissist, she will seize upon every opportunity to connect with the other people in your life. This is something you'll notice early in the relationship. It can also serve as a heads up. If you see this, be alert for any other signs of odd behavior.
Normal, healthy people do not go out of their way to form instant and immediate friendships with people they've just met. Nor do they typically ask for the names, addresses and other means of contacting people they hardly know, unless there is a compelling reason to do so. At the very least, it shows that they probably lack common sense, and they do not respect people's boundaries.
Once the contact is made, a malignant personality will then go out of her way to foster this new "friendship." She may even start inviting them places on her own, without asking you. If you let her, she will infiltrate your life, and start her own relationship with everyone you know.
Eventually, she'll turn on you. Your friends and acquaintances will then hear a lot of lies. People you can count on will let her know this is unacceptable. The smart people will then distance themselves from this troublemaker. Others will swallow her lies, and gravitate toward her corner.
Her plan to split people, and isolate you from those you love, will start small. Then, as she is ready to "discard" you, it will intensify.
Narcissistic individuals have always behaved this way. You can always depend upon a narcissist to do a lot of negative "outreach." But the advent of social media has made it easier.
Experience has taught me that it's a good idea to not immediately introduce a new acquaintance to your family and friends. If this person has a malignant side, you may never really get rid of her, unless you cut off all contact with people you love, which is not something I recommend.
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