Friday, January 2, 2015
Malicious People are Overly Curious
I've yet to meet a malicious person who's not overly curious. People with strong narcissist traits are forever comparing themselves to others. They're much more concerned with what's going on in someone else's life than what's happening in their own. Oftentimes, they don't have enough to do, and they're bored, so their idle minds turn to intrigue.
As envious and entitled people, they are disturbed if they detect someone else has a perceived advantage. This is when things can turn ugly. In an attempt to "elevate" themselves, they will try to bring down a rival.
A female narcissist will achieve this "goal" through social aggression. Her victims do not see this coming until she's ruined their other relationships. Once enough people turn on her target, she suddenly withdraws her "friendship." Up until then, she pretends to be your friend. Perhaps she even consoles you when complain that, suddenly, people are avoiding you. This is an example of just how devious a female narcissist can be.
Obviously, we want to avoid female narcissists. We certainly don't want them as our "friends," and we don't want them in a position where they can harm us.
That's why it's helpful to identify covert narcissists, before introducing them to anyone else. Unfortunately, these predators don't give many clues, especially as you're first getting to know them. However, excess and unhealthy curiosity is something to pay attention to.
How can you tell if someone is overly curious? Gossiping about others is a very bad sign. Also, malicious people will probe you about various aspects of your life. Look for pointed questions, followed by a prolonged stare. Those of us who've encountered malignant personalities are familiar with this "predatory gaze." Researchers who study personality disorders have discovered that people with anti-social personality disorders are, indeed, able to maintain eye contact longer than the rest of us.
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