One way to smoke out fake friends is when you happen to succeed at something. This could be a promotion at work, a new boyfriend, an engagement ring or even something as simple as receiving a compliment. Believe it or not, a few kind words may be all it takes to become a target of a malignant narcissist.
These morally disordered people are filled with envy, rage and hatred. They are so competitive that they resent every bit of attention given to someone else. Despite the fact malicious people often pose as friends, they literally die inside when it appears as if you have an advantage. Because narcissists have an inflated sense of entitlement, they believe they deserve whatever attention or accolades you are given.
Sometimes, you don't even need to receive a visible or tangible notice or mention. A narcissist also gets upset just over the fact that you're happy, and she's not. This is something she wants to take away from you as well. Or, you may be just a nice person who happens to get along with people. This is enough to drive her to spread vicious lies, so they'll turn against you.
Women who are physically attractive, or look younger than their years, seem to have an especially difficult time with female narcissists. This is especially true among women who hit midlife, as differences in how we age become more apparent.
Someone with malignant narcissism doesn't just "suffer" silently, when her eyes turn green. Instead, she plans and schemes to acquire whatever it is you possess. If this dynamic occurs in the workplace, you'll become one more workplace bullying victim.
How to spot an enemy posing as a friend, otherwise known as a "frenemy?" Although these toxic phonies try hard to cover up their true motives, they often give themselves away with snide comments and subtle put downs. Don't ignore it when a "friend" does this. Above all, when you notice this, don't make the mistake of confiding in her.
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